Marriage Shmarriage

Perhaps it's because of my upcoming wedding that I'm noticing all the celebrity and non celebrity divorces lately...but then again maybe not.

I've been hearing a lot of stories about divorce lately and frankly, I don't get it. Isn't marriage the sacred commitment you and your true love make? A pledge to be together for the rest of your lives? Through good times and bad times, sickness and health? So why all the divorce?

I partly believe people are lazy. I also believe our society has lost it's romance. Men used to be gentlemen and women were ladies. Car doors were opened and intelligent discussions about life were had between couples. Sex wasn't even a possibility until after marriage and now it's as important as his smile. Marriage was a mutual understanding and agreement before friends, family and God to 'go through this together'. Now, marriage has just become 'the next step' in a relationship and isn't taken as seriously. I also think a great number of girls just want the wedding and aren't ready for marriage. But why now?

The average age for couples to start having children is now 25, it used to be 21. And, the average age for marriage has increased as well to 31! Already people are having children before they're married and think nothing of it. That's fine, to each their own. But if we're older and 'more mature' why is the divorce rate still so high? We've been able to choose our post secondary education, our housing, manage credit cards maybe have children already and start our career, so why can't we manage a marriage?

I am very crazy in love with my finance, Joshua. Like fire burning intense love, can't live without him love. Although I know our life together will not always be peachy, there will be really hard times and times when we want to kill each other. But they will never last long because we share such an incredible love. We both understand that love is the most important thing we can share and as long as we have that, nothing can truly be that bad. This is our life; we're in it together and I want it to be the happiest and best life it can be. :)

So sit down, listen to each other, talk about it. Your new goal in life is to make your partner the happiest person on earth and if they already are, well done and congrats on your happiness!! If it's not working out, talk, go to counseling or you likely just need to calm down and love each other!

For many, I think that's all it takes.

Happy lovin!